Buying Jewlery for my Wife

A friend of mine bought a very nice necklace for his wife for Christmas. Upon receiving it the wife said that she likes it but she doesn't want him to buy her any more jewelry. Why did she say this? What did she mean? Does she not like it? Should he have not gotten her the necklace?

Fact: Women like fine jewelry. Women especially like sentimental gifts. What, let's call him Bob, got for his wife was a gold necklace with a gold pendant of a mother and child with their one year old sons birth stone in it. Bob should not worry, he did a very good job. To understand why his wife said what she said you have to understand a bit about the wife. Sue, let's call her, is an auditor by trade and a penny pincher by nature. Bob and Sue are the kinds of people who discuss what they are getting each other for Christmas well before the day itself. Though this time Bob did not tell Sue about this special gift. Inevitably Sue, by her own nature, had to say what she said. She was concerned about the financial impact not because it was not wonderful but because it was money spent on her for something, well lets face it, unnecessary for survival. Also She may have felt guilty for not knowing and therefore being unable to return the gesture.

So should Bob have gotten Sue the Necklace? Yes. Should he continue to buy her jewelry in the future? Yes. But lucky for Bob the intervals between such romantic gestures can be greatly stretched.

As I said, women tend to like fine jewelry but if it is given too much such as every birthday or every Christmas this romantic gesture tends to lose its sentimentality. So for a good long lasting relationship I'd say once every other year to once every five years or so. Of course this also depends on the woman, is she someone who thinks she deserves the world, then once a year may not be enough. For a woman like Sue, once every five years or so, maybe even more, should be fine. Remember its all in context.

Congratulations Bob, ya did-done good!

What is the ultimate language barrier?

He's not stupid and she's not psycho, you just don't understand each other. Though they share a common phonetic alphabet and sentence structure men and women both have languages all their own. Throughout my life I have been surrounded by more men then most women and more women then most men. This has put me in an interesting position where many friends and colleagues tend to ask me questions such as "why did my wife do this?" or "why do guys always say that?" Now I, in no way, claim to be an expert on the subjects of either men or women but my observations through the years have always amused and even amazed me. I thought it was time that I shared the questions I get asked along my personal observations and attempts at answers to these questions. Feel free to give your opinions on the topics as well!